Back in the beginning of my career I used to set weekly goals for my students. I’d write them in their assignment books and at the following lesson, would go down the list, checking if they had completed their assignments.
I thought that’s what it meant to be a responsible teacher…
Until one day, a student who had fell short of accomplishing his weekly goals exclaimed, “Well I didn’t agree to these assignments. You just gave them to me. And I had a busy week in school.”
Some teachers might feel disrespected by this outburst and see it as an opportunity to teach the student about respect and the hierarchy of the student-teacher relationship.
It hit me a bit differently.
The student was right: I did assign the assignments based upon what I thought was appropriate, not based upon the integrated life of my student.
Suddenly, our roles had switched, the teacher became the student.
What I realised, was that for the student to become more responsible for his OWN growth, I had to remove myself from he playing field of his learning. I could coach him, but I could not play his “learning game” for him, because if things didn’t work out when I was on his learning field, he might look at me as the cause, and not himself.
He needed me to be the coach, not another player.
Many of the concepts in Coffee With Ray, a book I authored in 2013 (Ed: highly recommended reading! Read my review of Nick’s great book here – Tim), stemmed from the idea that the teacher is the coach, not a player on the field. The teacher’s job, however, is to provide the student with the tools to play the learning game most successfully.
We need to teach our students how to set and “get” their own goals. We need to use the right language to motivate and inspire and we need to ask the right questions to deepen their understanding.
The following goal setting ideas were adapted from Awesomely Simple by John Spence.
Make sure the goals you set are S.M.A.R.T!
They need to be able to answer five questions, otherwise they are not really goals, they are simply wishes.
Moving ourselves onto the sidelines of our student’s learning field can be challenging. Our egos can easily be bruised. But what tends to happen is that our students’ abilities to learn on their own grow stronger.
And helping them achieve that is ultimately our job, isn’t it?
Do you write all the notes in your student’s diary/assignment book? Do you work together to set goals or do you specify them for your students… or does it depend on the student? Are you on the sidelines coaching or driving the game as a player on the field?
Let me know what you think with a comment below.
Nick Ambrosino is a leading expert helping teachers, parents and students of all ages in the field of human potential and excellence. Nick is a renowned learning specialist, author and speaker on topics such as creating explosive growth in accountability, productivity and self-esteem. Nick is the author of two parables on educational psychology titled--"Coffee With Ray" and its sequel, "Lessons with Matt". Both are available on Amazon. Find Nick at NickAmbrosino.com.
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